What to do when you feel like a failure.....

"You're no good"
"You're not good enough"
"Look at all the things you've done wrong and screwed up"
"You're worthless"
"No one really loves you"

If your heart has hurt from disappointment, feeling not-good-enough, not worthy of love or  he heartache of things not working out in your life, or you're just feeling attacked with a little depression...I hope something you see in these words will lift your heart up.

1. YOU ARE NOT YOUR PAST FAILURES OR MISTAKES:
Everything that looked as if it's "gone wrong" In your life, which makes your life feel like a bunch of tangled knots, is actually weaving together a beautiful, priceless tapestry. A life that without those tangled moments, wouldn't make you the amazing person you are, full of strength, determination and the ability to say, I'm a survivor. I also say that when you life feels like a shattered mirror, no longer perfect in the worlds eye, but that shattered mirror is going to shine and reflect more light than a perfect mirror ever will. Every bit of broken-ness, every painful moment that's caused some part of your to shatter, is only going to make you shine brighter. Your heart grows bigger, your determination stronger, your understanding gets larger and you become more beautiful, for all the painful things you've endured.


2. YOU ARE MORE THAN ANY FAILURE OR SUCCESS:
We all have failures in life, and we look forward to the successes.  Failure is a required stepping stone on any pathway to success, if you're not afraid to fail, you're never going to achieve anything worthwhile. And no matter how little or many your successes are, that's not what makes you. I've seen very successful people who are rude, awful, self-centered and lack morals, by the worlds eye from the outside they look like SUCCESS! But if you see behind the scenes, they might be the biggest failures of all.
You are not your failures and don't measure your worth by what the world sees as "success". The world doesn't give awards for being a loving person, or someone who inspires those around them, or leaves people better off for having been in their presence. But those are the most important.

3. YOU ARE MORE THAN GOOD ENOUGH:
I've been in relationships where I was told I was worthless, no one loved me, I was unattractive, and so on. Those words stung my heart at the time, and made me feel unworthy of being loved, like I had no value, like I was worthless.
I now know, that those words were being spoken from a heart that was so wounded themselves, they  didn't know how to love someone.


4. YOU CAN'T SEE WHAT'S AROUND THE BEND:
It always seems, just like in the movies, that things are looking really bad before the victory takes place. I know in my life, I've felt like a complete failure, that none of my dreams would ever come true, and pretty hopeless. Had I only known what God knew was waiting for me up ahead in my future. You never want to give up, because the greatest day of your life could be tomorrow, next week , next month, and the most mind blowing awesome, dream come true, can be just ahead, if you just hang on a little while longer!

If you've been told things like this, whether from a "loved one" or some angry, and hurt people at school or work, or you just feel these thoughts on your own, I want you to know:
YOU ARE AMAZING.
YOU ARE FULL OF INCREDIBLE IDEAS.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.
YOU MATTER SO MUCH, AND THIS WORLD NEEDS YOUR THOUGHTS, WORDS, IDEAS and TALENT.
ALL THE THINGS YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH HAVE JUST MADE YOU EVEN MORE BEAUTIFUL, AMAZING, KIND, PRECIOUS AND JUST PRICELESS.

NO MATTER WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH NOW, WHAT HURT IS IN YOUR HEART, WHAT FEELINGS OF FAILURE MIGHT BE CREEPING UP IN YOUR MIND....
know that you are great, and every great person has failed so many times.

Your failures are just making your success story that much more amazing! I feel like a failure, more times that I'll ever admit. I feel like I'm no good, nothing I do is very good, and that I'm not as good as "so-and-so"...and I want you to know if you feel that way, it's ok. Just make sure you hear my voice in your heart saying....
You are amazing, incredible, strong, and beyond compare. You are precious and deserve to have your heart held only in hands that will cherish it. What the world sees as success is nothing...I want to store of my success in the hearts of people who's lives I  have touched and in heaven where our greatest rewards for out lives down here on earth await us.

I am sending you ginormous hugs and so much love, from your friend who loves YOU, Kandee

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